Ready to Build a Lasting Marriage?

This is the book you need.

In my opinion this book is the based upon the best and most interesting reseach on marriage I have seen.  John Gottman used 15 minute video taped vignettes of couples.  He would have them set up the situation by discussing a contentious topic between the couple.  He would then video tape how they discussed this issue.  Then with 91 % accuracy he could predict whether the couple would divorce.  This is a book you need to read whether you are starting a relationship or improving a marriage.  It will change conventional wisdom you might have to uncommon sense and clarity about what actually makes a marriage work. If you are in a marriage or considering getting married this is a MUST READ!

My work with couples is built upon the foundation created by this book.  I do not think that simply teaching couples to use "I statements", to talk like psychologists at home or to do better "fair fighting" will work.  It is both simpler and more complicated than that. Get this book and you will begin to have a whole new  understanding of how to make your marriage work.

Dr. Charles Shinaver

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“Finding Your Talents and Turning them into Strengths.
Finding your Passion and using it to Fuel your Motivation!”

Dr. Shinaver offers a variety ways to work with adults:

• Life Coaching
• Counseling
• Leadership Development
• Parent Coaching
• Marital Coaching
• Stress Management Program

Stress Management Program:

This initial foundational program is particularly effective in addressing symptoms of Anger, Depression and Stress.  This is focused and effective conducted in a time-limited 4-6 session format.  You will develop a skill set which serves the purpose of preventing the deepening of these kinds of symptoms.  Essentially it provides you with a critical skill an initial level of emotional intelligence which enhances your effectiveness in other areas of your life and helps prevent the worsening of these symptoms.  This creates an excellent beginning to your personal growth and optimal functioning.

In HeartMath’s Revitalize You! Program Dr. Shinaver, a Licensed HeartMath Provider, will teach you how to realign with your heart and ignite your passion for life! You will learn how to increase your vitality, achieve quick and sustained stress relief and improve your ability to think clearly and make good decisions under pressure. This focused and practical program combines personalized instruction, coaching and tool practice in 4- 6 lessons customized to meet your personal and professional objectives and fit into your schedule. You will also learn how to use HeartMath’s innovative emWave® technology to accelerate your learning and track your progress.  This coaching program allows you to develop a valuable skill set for managing stress.

The program includes a special workbook, Revitalize You! Optional materials include: Transforming Stress book, HeartMath Music CD and the emWave® PC Stress Relief System or emWave Personal Stress Reliever® .

Course Topics include:

• Your Emotional Landscape: Learn the relationship between emotions, stress, performance and health.
• Neutral- Learn how to disengage from the negative impact stress has on your body and mind.
• Quick Coherence Technique- Learn the foundational tool in the HeartMath System to transform stress.
• Heart Lock-in Technique- Learn how to restore nervous system health, increase energy levels and improve your overall sense of well being.
• Freeze-Frame Technique- Learn how to improve mental acuity and problem solving skills.
• Coherent Communication- Learn how to revitalize your relationships.

Results That Count

These results were obtained through a HeartMath intervention and research that was conducted totally separate from Dr. Shinaver. More specifically this study did not include the specific involvement of Dr. Shinaver. However, he uses the techniques that were used in this study in his approach to stress management.

Are you ready to:

• feel better more often
• boost your performance
• find more work/life balance
• expand your flexibility and resilience
• enhance your decision making and creativity
• refine your communication skills
• strengthen your personal and professional relationships
• reverse the negative impact stress is having on your health, work and quality of life

HeartMath is a scientifically-validated system of stress intervention techniques and objective biometric feedback that quantifiably boosts the health and performance of individuals and organizations. Nearly 1,400 people at six global companies showed the following results were sustained after six months after taking HeartMath training:

• 60% reduction in anxiety
• 45% reduction in exhaustion
• 41% reduction in intent to leave the job
• 24% improvement in the ability to focus
• 25% improvement in listening ability
• 17% improvement in home/work conflict

Learn HeartMath's easy-to-learn, easy-to-use tools and technology with Dr. Shinaver, a Licensed HeartMath Provider.  You’ll receive personalized instruction and become skilled in basic HeartMath techniques including Freeze-Frame, Heart Lock-In, and Heart Mapping. You’ll receive your own personal HeartMath workbook to help you focus on the effective integration and application of HeartMath’s techniques to the area of your life where you want the most benefit. You’ll learn how to measure your progress and physiological changes with the emWave software technology.

Contact Dr. Shinaver for more information..

“HeartMath is the owner’s manual we’ve been waiting for to help us recognize and use our heart’s energy to help heal our bodies and our lives.”

TESTIMONIALS for HeartMath :

ANGER

A 15 year old boy who returned to school this year after dropping out for a few years is in my room for most of the day, but does participate in some regular classes. He was having a lot of difficulty with the Social Studies teacher getting mad and oppositional. I think mainly his anger was with his own inadequacies academically. We worked with the FreezeFramer and the Heart Tools. One thing that would get him in his heart was his grandparents. Since his Social Studies teacher is a 70 year old man, he used his love for his grandfather to balance his anger in the classroom. Now when he leaves my room to go to Social Studies, he now tells me "It's time to go see Grandpa". He's had no
troubles in that class since.

J. F. – Teacher at Indian School

Last night I had to deal with a particularly angry e-mail and my response to it was angry. Then I took it home, and played the music over and over again; woke up the next morning, and played it some more. Then I realized just how long I had let it affect me. I guess the awareness [HeartMath brings] is just as important as the practice.

Anonymous

A 1:1 Provider has been coaching and using the Manifest with individuals with language processing problems and impulse issues. The parents have noticed very positive changes, seeing a major decrease in externalization of anger and
frustration. People with these types of functioning problems normally don't use the process of stop/think/act; they normally just explode in rage or frustration. Using the Manifest and introducing them to their heart as reaching areas that
have never been reached before, areas medication cannot reach and healing those areas. They are seeing the heart as strength instead of vulnerable and experiencing a sense of connectedness. One of the teenagers came to her and
told her she liked the Manifest and wanted to know more about it.

M. M.

I have told everyone it should be made part of all our management courses. I used to have a very big temper, but I haven’t had an argument with anyone for months.

Anonymous – Three months after training

DEPRESSION

I am a very emotional person who is prone to depression and this has been a very rough year. Being laid off from Andersen is only one example of the stress and disappointment I’ve faced. I had spent the two weeks prior to the Chicago seminar descending into a very black despair and anger. I really didn’t think your appreciation exercises would do much for me. But I have to admit that the Heartmath exercises helped a lot. I started psychotherapy (again) at the end of August, and therapy combined with the Heart Lock-In technique have me in a much better place (especially surprising considering the emotions of the September 11th anniversary). I struggle with self-loathing and shame and the only thing I could initially think of to appreciate about myself was that I have good skin. So I started there and I’m amazed at how far it has gotten me.

Regina Rodriguez – Chicago, Illinois, September 13, 2002

HeartMath has changed my life. Last spring, before I started HeartMath , even though my life was good, I was sad, depressed, confused and so many other feelings of defeat. I could not truly enjoy my life, my daughter or my fiancé. I was so beaten down by the hardship I had endured that I could not enjoy the good in life. I felt like it was only a matter of time before everything came crumbling down.

Now though, I am no longer a victim! Wow, talk about a miracle. It is like magic. Not like a magic-pill that makes it all better all at once, but like a magic flame inside of me - the more I look at it, the stronger it gets. And the most wonderful thing about it is - it¹s mine. No one but me truly controls it.

The wonderful mother, wife and person that I have always wanted to be, I am! My appreciation of life and my experience grows into a huge flame that surrounds me.

I could go on and on about HeartMath . It is something every person needs. I am so grateful to be one of the ones who gets to learn it. It is truly the greatest gift of information I have ever received.

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

Love, A

STRESS TESTIMONIALS for HeartMath

HeartMath ’s Inner Quality Management program is a wonderful, effective path to serenity for crazy, busy executives. The program not only works as a “problem fixer,” but more importantly it enriches one's life. A wonderful discovery for people whose lives have become too busy and unmanageable. This book equips you to cope not only with all the stress in life, but then goes way beyond in introducing positive, lasting changes.

Bob Morgan, President, Council of Growing Companies BM01

In three weeks, my mother died, my siblings and I needed $6000, my son and my only grandchild moved to their own place, my husband needed to remove every evidence of their existence from our home, and I was recalled to my job after a 4 month layoff which was to be only two - bringing me to financial ruin, and finding that there was a 4 month backlog of work and leaving me with a sudden return to pent up pressure and unmanageable stress.

I have been clinging to my HeartMath music to just keep getting up each day. Then the suggestions from you have begun to sink in - slowly in my unfocused state. Then I got today’s Inner Quality Tip: "Significance". One fully-focused Heart Lock-In and I am on track again. Bless you! I have strayed from my values - I've been reacting instead of making conscience choices. Amazing! A thousand times this program has kept me in focus and attuned to what really
matters in my life. Thank you for the jump start!!!

Anonymous

I obtain quick, concrete feedback from emWave . I have done a lot of stress management training before, without receiving feedback – have had to rely on self-reports.

D. M. – Educator

This is the most peace I've felt - like a vacation to Maui!

From a parent/clinical client

Psychologist Pam Aasen, Ph.D., has been recommending emWave to her patients with great success. She says, “People with a history of trauma or chronic stress may develop a high tolerance for stress and can be unaware of day-to-day stress and its impact on physical, mental and emotional well-being. She encourages her patients with chronic stress to practice emWave regularly so they can begin to recognize stressors. “With practice, the positive state of 2 well-being experienced from regular use of this heart power tool can help you establish a baseline for healthy stress awareness. It will start to become uncomfortable to experience stress when you know there is a positive alternative that you can use whenever you start to feel uneasy. This way, you can start to develop a healthy intolerance for stress discomfort.

Pam Aasen, Ph.D. PA01

"The emWave is a revolutionary product that helps me deal with
accumulated stress through short tension busting "inner workouts" that I look
forward to every day."

Barnet Bain, Hollywood movie producer – “What Dreams May Come”, The
Quantum Project, CEO of Metafilmics

I did the HeartMath certification program to be able to provide a powerful tool to my clients. It has proven to be just that. The most interesting application, however, has been during my recently completed 2167 mile hike of the Appalachian Trail. There were times when I was feeling stressed or overwhelmed, for example, when I woke up to rain for the fourth or fifth morning in a row and my boots, socks, and clothes were still soaked from the day before, and used emWave or simply brought my energy to my heart. The strategy always helped me settle down and get back into the heart-set of what a grand and glorious adventure I was experiencing.

Rita Losee - ScD, RN

Yesterday I did it after the stressful event, so it took longer to have an effect…but
I did get a positive effect though. I also used Intuitive Listening this morning.

Anonymous – One month after training

No longer am I coming home from work and banging my head against a brick
wall. I have really honed the skills (I used before) now. Going to the course has
made me very much more alert.

Anonymous – One month after training

Yesterday was a really frustrating time, and I deliberately took the time out [to
use HeartMath tools] and everything just worked out.

Anonymous – One month after training

MORE STRESS TESTIMONIALS for HeartMath

I am really glad I did it. This course is better than all the other stress
management courses I have done… they were OK, but they were really wishy-washy.
This, you can see and feel working.

Anonymous – One month after training

With every conversation I deliberately make the effort to step back, let them have
their say and listen.

Anonymous – One month after training

Everyone has noticed I have calmed down at work and at home. I am using
Freeze-Frame and Neutral a lot.

Anonymous – One month after training

It is a very stressful time for me, but the tools, FreezeFrame especially, are
really helping me through it.

Anonymous – Three months after training

• Parents are experts on their own kids.
• Parent’s own Emotional or Behavioral Habits may prevent them from being aware of their own blind spots and limit their effectiveness with their children.
• A Lack of salient information sometimes prevents parents from being more effective.
  • Various Child and Adolescent struggles lend themselves to coaching help
    • Anxiety
    • Depression
    • Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
    • The social challenges of Adolescence
    • Helping a child find his or her strengths and build a life around them.
  • Highlighted Salient Information Provided in a Condensed format is effective and efficient
  • Focus is upon skill development of more effective parenting strategies will have a long term benefit.

• Nurturing
• Setting Limits